One very important aspect of Magar culture which distinguish itself from typical Hindu culture. One more thing which wasn't change with History and cannot change by the Nepali high class ruler.
Yes, I am talking about magar Marriage, which so different than Hindu culture but may be similar to other ethinic groups like gurung, limbu etc.
First of all we don't perform Yagna, its not at all imporatnt for us. (I have seen this trend in few Magars who are too much influenced by Khas) No saat phere, no pandit, no havan. And Magar's married life actually starts before the actual marriage. Like, girl has been brought to groom's home if they are mutually agreed, that phase is called "Di Le Chyapeko or Pani Le Chyapeko", hence both boy and girl can stay together with the same very day. This mutual agreement can be between their relatives or just between them.
After, this only the final date of marriage or dhaubet if fixed. (So we can see there is nothing called wedding night , here). Dhaubet is again just a simple process. Though this literally means "to worship/to give respect by visiting each other" (I could not find the better word). So, its just a ceremony in which the elders from both side meet each other, bride's get aquainted with groom's relative and vice versa. Basically, its a ceremony to formally recognise the newly wed couple as husband and wife.
Its so simply done. Previously, Magars didn't even use to refer to horoscope. We can either say it as lack of their knowledge or the non-importance in their life.
Now, you can imagine how simple was Magar marriage is done. You might get more information by your grandma or grandpa. At that there was no dowry system too. There can be little difference in actual ceremony but the one I have mentioned here is the outline.
Yes, I am talking about magar Marriage, which so different than Hindu culture but may be similar to other ethinic groups like gurung, limbu etc.
First of all we don't perform Yagna, its not at all imporatnt for us. (I have seen this trend in few Magars who are too much influenced by Khas) No saat phere, no pandit, no havan. And Magar's married life actually starts before the actual marriage. Like, girl has been brought to groom's home if they are mutually agreed, that phase is called "Di Le Chyapeko or Pani Le Chyapeko", hence both boy and girl can stay together with the same very day. This mutual agreement can be between their relatives or just between them.
After, this only the final date of marriage or dhaubet if fixed. (So we can see there is nothing called wedding night , here). Dhaubet is again just a simple process. Though this literally means "to worship/to give respect by visiting each other" (I could not find the better word). So, its just a ceremony in which the elders from both side meet each other, bride's get aquainted with groom's relative and vice versa. Basically, its a ceremony to formally recognise the newly wed couple as husband and wife.
Its so simply done. Previously, Magars didn't even use to refer to horoscope. We can either say it as lack of their knowledge or the non-importance in their life.
Now, you can imagine how simple was Magar marriage is done. You might get more information by your grandma or grandpa. At that there was no dowry system too. There can be little difference in actual ceremony but the one I have mentioned here is the outline.
Interesting.. and I loved the part "No-Dowry"
ReplyDeleteYes we are rana magar n my dad n mom both married this way only .nowdays many ceremonies are performed ..
ReplyDeleteYes we are rana magar n my dad n mom both married this way only .nowdays many ceremonies are performed ..
ReplyDeleteMy bajai (great grandmother) told me marriage was very simple back then. First the boy visits the girl house and purpose a marriage purposal in front of the girls parents with some wealth, alcohol and pork (meat). Then, if the girl is ready, her parents will put on tika on both girl and boy forehead and do the paani chhyapney and send her to the boy house on the very same day. After that, both girl and boy parent will fix the dhauvet date either consulting with bhushal or looking at a auspicious day. By religion now we follow tibetan\mahayana buddhism so we have lama these days but back then bon(shamanism and amanism) was followed so magar people use to call their bon priest bhushal.
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